Boundaries

I have always had a problem making up my mind...figuring out which option is correct or finding the ideal answer to a question. My standard reply to any such dilemma tends to be “ depends....” followed by this long set of conditions, if and but statements....and at the end of this long drawn speech will come my answer, given in the most mild and diplomatic manner so as to not ruffle any feathers!!!! My diplomacy set aside, i have never understood how so many people seem to have such a clear cut idea of what to do in a particular situation. They talk in absolutes, having exact rules and boundaries which must be abided!!! It would be untrue to say that I’ve never had ideas like that. Doesn’t really take much to watch N number of movies, put yourself in the umpteen moral dilemmas that the hero/heroine always manage to find themselves and then coolly pass judgement, stating very categorically that the xyz character should of course have known better and how you would’ve acted differently if placed in their shoes. Truth be told, this kind of judgement even happens in real life. But what i’ve realised is, you can never truly know how you will behave until you are actually going through that particular situation. At that time, the unbiased objectivity of an onlooker eludes you no matter how much you search for it. You struggle just to prevent your emotions and fears from taking a hold of you and clouding your judgement. Struggle to sift through the mountains of advice and solutions that people ever-so-generously bestow on you...which actually tend to confuse you even more, rather than do any good. And even at the end of all this, it is quite likely that you may not find the right answer or do the right thing....or at the very least there will be a section of people who think you are wrong. Makes me think that there’s never really just one right answer for everyone. Each person, each situation is different....and even if the right path might seem apparent to most, its that person’s ability to accept, execute and stand by the consequences of his/her choice that make it right or wrong. It would be ever so convenient if we were all divinely aware of the line dividing right from wrong. I guess the best we can hope for is to set our own boundaries and have the courage to stick by them....the rest will take care of itself...I hope!!!